Marcel found one. Julie is one of them.
Selina’s student at art school, Julie, is Marcel’s new found friend. Julie lives nearby in Commonwealth Senior Living in Williamsburg. There is a good bus service between the two places where Julie and Marcel live. Marcel and Julie meet often. They both like to talk. At times it is very difficult for Marcel to continue the conversation but Marcel is also a good listener.
Julie is different in many ways. Julie is an enthusiastic person. At times she is dominating talker and aggressive She seems to know lot about life. She knows everything. Always ready to help. Julie has a wonderful memory. She describes things as if like a photographic memory. Her memories about her parent’s last few years must have been heart breaking. Whenever she talks about it, she almost breaks down. Alzheimer’s takes toll on its caregivers.
Sometime, Marcel complains about too many things about his life. He found Julie has the patience for it. Marcel does not know much about Alzheimer’s. He has Alzheimer’s and has many unanswered questions for his well-beings. Nobody seems to care. Marcel wonders whether Julie would have any answer for him.
Julie got interested in caring people with Alzheimer’s, as her both parents had Alzheimer’s, and she cared for them till the end.
Julie asked Marcel straight out: “What’s bothering you? I happened to know you a little bit from Selina. So, to save both of our time, please get straight to the point.” Marcel knew Julie is smart.
Julie asked Marcel, “When, exactly, did you or your doctors suspected know about your possible dementia? Was it right after his mini-stroke suffered more than five years ago? Or was it just a recent observation and diagnosis by a neurologist?”
It is difficult for Marcel, but he thought to himself that he is going to give it a try. Marcel explained to Julie his health situation.
After much thought, Marcel answered: “It is both. After the stroke, one doctor only mentioned the word dementia. He did not do anything about it, nor the doctor explained anything to me. A couple of years later, when I started getting bothered by memory loss, my doctor referred Marcel to a neurologist, and it took about six months for the neurologist to diagnose and start me with a new medication for Alzheimer’s.”
Marcel began to feel a little better. Marcel started to read and write. Julie knew that her parents time these medications were not available.
Marcel feels that his expectations for himself and for others are high and demanding.
He demands it of himself and the people around him, ended up: nobody likes him anymore.